My wife invited her 56-year-old-sister to stay at our house for a couple of days and we gave her total access to the house . I needed to check my emails and I went to the reading room where the family computer is located . When I open the door , I was shocked to see what was on the computer . My sister-in-law was eatching an adult movie . I wanted to yell at her , but my mouth shut beccause of the shock . After I got my composure , I told my sister-in-law that she cannot use our family computer without supervision . I do not have the time to supervise an adult while she surfs the Internet .I like my sister-in-law and I want her to continue to feel comfortable in our home . How can I prevent anyone from visiting inapropriate adult content on my family's computer ? My wife and I do not appreciate porn and do not ever have it in out home .
Computer blue
Dear Computer Blue ,
You can put parental controls on your computer to ensure that no one can access adult content or any other content that you deem inappropriate for your home . Go to ehow.com/how_6780583_put-parental-controls-laptop.html for instructions . if you regularly have houseguests , you may want to tell them to bring their own computer. Or, you can put a label on the home computer saying "Please limit your Internet usage to X,Y, and Z."
These measures could be extreme though . It could be that your sister-in-law is an anomaly . You may simple need to deal with her directly and make it clear to her that she crossed the line and you do not appreciate it . Chances are she is embarrassed by being caught watching pornography , so you do not need to beat her over the head with he transgression .
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
My threee-year-old son is starting pre-school in a few weeks and he is excited about going to school . He can use the bathroom on his own , but I am wonfering if I should pack a few diapers in his book bag to prevent any potential accidents .
Momma's Boy
Dear Momma's Boy
Contact the preschool and ask what the policy is . They may suggest that you not send diapers and talk to your son about being a big boy and remembering to ask to go to the bathroom . Or they may suggest that you pack diapers and give them to the teacher without your son seeing them , so that extras are on hand in case of an accident but your child doesn't know that crutch is there . Most important is for you to make sure your son is comfortable as he takes this big step .
Maxy
Dear Maxy,
I witnessed a huge argument between my brother and his wife when we last visited. What was weird is that the next day they acted like nothing had happened . I am single , in part because this kind of stuff runs me crazy . How can you love someone one minute and hate her guts the next minute . I don't understand it . I want to ask my brother but I know that their marital issues are none of my business . Do you understand this ?
Single and Perplexed
Dear Singlr and Perplexed.
Married people argue just like friend argue . For those who have been married long enough , it is likely that they have weathered any number of storms where they did not agree . What happens afterwards is what truly counts after an argument . How people address the issue that brought on the flare , how they talk to each other in the heat of the moment and how they mend fences are the key . You argue without being mean which is ideal . It is possible to apologize and make up . Further , you can love someone forever but not like the person from time to time . As you look for a healthy bond , pay attention to how you disagree and come back to a loving place . If you cannot do that , you will not be successful in the long term .
Maxy
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