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Thursday, May 31, 2012
I work in an office with five other women . Our customers are primarily men . The problem is , all the other assistants dress provocatively , flirt and laugh loudly at our customers' lewd jokes . I am not like that , but every time I greet a customer with a smile , the girls say , "You must be in a good mood today," giving the impression that I'm otherwise a real witch .
Co-workers within earshot snort and laugh . This really rankles me , because I am always in a good mood . I just don't fawn over the guys like the other women do .
This is happening more and more , and I am tired of it .
Is there something I can say that will shut them up for good ?
Just about had it
Dear Had it ,
The co-workers tease you because they are guaranteed a flustered reaction . The best way to put a stop to it would be to laugh off these comments . That would not only defuse your anger , but also minimize their enjoyment .
Dear Maxy ,
One of my best friends is gay , but our other friend still uses the word "gay" to describe the things she think is stupid . She says our friend doesn't mind , but I think he does ... he would just never admit it . Should I act on my instinct and tell her she needs to stop , or should I just let it go ?
Keeping It PC
Dear Keeping It PC,
By all means speak up . Words are powerful , and how we use them is important . Being insensitive to the use of a word like "gay" is actually what is stupid. Talk to your friend about her choice of words and make it clear that you find her speech offensive . This is true regardless of whether she is in the company of your friend or not. By the way , it's important to acknowledge that wherever you are and no matter the company , using language like that is unwise because it continues a narrative of insensitivity that is unkind .
Your gay friend may or may not mind . But that isn 't the point . What's key here is for your friend to recognize that words have the ability to empower or hurt . Choosing empowerment is the way to go .
Dear Maxy ,
I made a silly and potentially costly mistake . I received an email from a friend suggesting that I look into a way to earn money from home . The link looked like a site from a television station , with articles and testimonials from a variety of people who said they earned money in this way . I found it intriguing . I did try to reach my friend to see if he had tried it , But I didn't hear back from him . (Later , he said his email was hacked .)
I got lured into the promise of earning extra money and signed up for it . Of course it required a small fee , which I paid . And then nothing > i didn't ever get to the place where I would earn money .
Now I;m worried that my credit card may be compromised . What can I do ?
Dear Hoodwinked ,
Usually , If something seems too good to be true , it is . Contact your credit card company and tell them that you believe the charge was fraudulent . Explain what happened and ask if they can stop payment and / or place an alert that the company you paid practices fraud . Credit card companies have departments set up to help customers with such things , so there's a good chance you will be reimbursed .
Dear Maxy ,
My parents recently met my boyfriend . They liked him well enough but thought he was too quiet . They mistook his quietness as lack of personality , even though I tried to explain that he is shy and nervous about making a good impression .
How can I get them to see what I see in him ?
Time is the friend you need to embrace right now . Your parents may have misinterpreted your boyfriend's quietness primarily because they don't have enough information to figure out what they think about him . But what they want most is for you to be safe and happy .
Tell your parents that your boyfriend is shy , and describe what you like about him in detail . Ask them to give him a chance and allow time for him to share more of himself with them .
Schedule activities so your boyfriend can get to know your parents and vice versa . After a while , your boyfriend will relax , especially if your parents decide they want to get to know him .
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Hands-on time : 60 minutes .... Total time : 1 hour 30 minutes
Vegetarians and meat lovers alike will love this twist of meat loaf . Ordinarily , you wouldn't pack a meat loaf into the pan , but since you are using a vegetable mixture , you will to make sure it holds together .
Meat Loaf :
1 large green bellpepper
1 large red bellpepper
2 pounds cremini mushrooms , coarsely chopped
1 tablespoon olive oil
1 cup panko (japanese breadcrumbs)
1 cup chopped walnuts , toasted
2 tablespoons chopped fresh basil
1 teaspoon Dijon mustard
1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
4 ounces fresh Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese , grated
2 large eggs , lightly beaten
2 tablespoons ketchup
1 tablespoon vodka or vegetable broth
1 teaspoon Dijon mustard
1) Preheat broiler to high
2) To prepare meatloaf , cut bellpeppers in half , lengthwise . Discard seeds and membranes . Place pepper halfs , skin sides up , on a foil-lined baking sheet ; flatten with hand. Broil 12 minutes or until blackened . Place in a paper bag ; fold to close tightly . Let stand for 10 minutes . Peel and finely chop . Place bell peppers in a large bowl .
3) Reduce oven temperature to 350*.
4) Place about one-fourth of mushrooms in a food processor ; pulse 10 times or until finely chopped . Tranfer chopped mushrooms to a bowl . Repeat procedure 3 time with remaining mushrooms .
5) Heat a large non-stick skillet over medium heat . Add oil to poan ; swirl to coat . Add mushrooms to pan ; saute 15 minutes or until liquid evaporates , stirring occasionally . Add mushrooms to bell peppers . Wipe pan with paper towels . Add asparagus and onion to pan ; saute 6 minutes or until just tender , stirring occasionally . Add onion mixture to mushroom mixture .
6) Arrange breadcrumbs in an even layer on a baking sheet ; bake at 350* for 10 minutes or until golden . Add breadcrumbs and next 8 ingredients (through eggs) to mushroom mixture , stirring well . Spoon mixture into a 9X5-inch loaf pan coated with cooking spray ; press gently to pack . Bake at 350* for 45 minutes . Let stand 10 minutes or until a thermometer registers 155*.
7) To prepare topping , combine 2 tablespoons ketchup and remaining ingredients in a small bowl ; brush betchup mixture over meat loaf . Bake an additional 10 minutes . Let stand 10 minutes ; cut into slices .
Serves 6 .... heart healthy .
Monday, May 28, 2012
Dr. Conrad Murray may have been ahead of his time ... because the drug that killed Michael Jackson will now be used to put people to death in Missouri .
The Missouri Department of Corrections has announced it has opted to ditch the previous 3-drug cocktail method for lethal injections ... and replace it with one giant helping of Propofol . Missouri will be the first state to use Propofol for the purpose of executing someone EVER .
So far , it's unclear when Missouri will begin using Propofol to kill people ... but there are 19 condemned men who could go on the chopping block in the very near future .
Stay tuned ... updates as they become available .
Saturday, May 26, 2012
1 (1pound) boneless sirloin steal
1/2 teaspoon kosher salt , divided
3/8 teaspoon ground black pepper
2 tablespoons unsalted butter
1 1/2 teaspoons hrated lemon rind , divided
1 teaspoon fresh lemon juice
1/2 teaspoon anchovy paste
1 teaspoon extra-virgin olive oil
1/4 cup presliced onion
2 garlic cloves , sliced
1/4 teaspoon crushed red pepper
1/2 cut fat-free , lower-sodium c hicken broth
8 ounces broccoli rabe (rapini), cut into 1-inch pieces
1) Heat a grill pan over medium-high heat ; coat with chicken spray . Sprinkle steak with 1/4 teaspoon salt and 1/4 teaspoon pepper . Add steak to pan ; cook 3 minutes on each side . Let stand 5 minutes . Cut steak across grain into thin slices .
2) Place butter in a bowl . Mico-wave at HIGH 10 seconds . Add 1/8 teaspoons salt , 1/8 teaspoon pepper , 1/2 teaspoon rind juice and achovy paste , stir until combine ; set aside .
3) Heat a skillet over medium-high heat . Add oil , onion; suate 2 minutes . Add garlic and red pepper ; saute 30 seconds . Stir in broth and rabe ; bring to a boil . Cover and simmer 3 minutes . Remove from heat ; stir in remaining salt and rind .
4) Place 3 ounces steak and 1/2 cup rabe on each of 4 plates . Top each steak with 1 1/2 teaspoons butter .
Fast and easy .
1 (10-ounce ) bag baby spinach , chopped
3 garlic cloves , minced
3 vertically sliced shallots
1 tablespoon chopped thyme , divided
1 tablespoon chopped fresh sage
1/2 teaspoon black pepper . divided
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 (8-ounce)package cremini mushrooms , quartered
3/4 cup toasted walnuts , chopped and divided
2 tablespoons red wine vinegar
2 ounces shedded Gruyere cheese
8 cups water
2 tablespoons white vinegar
4 large eggs
1) Heat a large Dutch oven over medium-high hest . Add 1 teaspoon oil . Add spinach ; saute 2 minutes . Remove spinach from pan ; drain , cool slightly and squeeze out escess moisture . Add remaining oil to pan . Add garlic and shallots ; suate 3 minutes . Add sage , 1/2 teaspoon thyme , 1/4 teaspoon pepper , salt and mushrooms ; saute 7 minutes . Stir in spinach , 1/2 cup walnuts , red wine vinegar , and cheese ; cook 30 seconds .
2) Combine 8 cups water and white vinegar in a large saucepan , and bring to a simmer . Break each egg gently into pan . Cook three minutes . Remove eggs using a slotted spoon .. Spoon 2/3 cup mushroom mixture onto each of 4 plates . Top each serving with one egg . Sprinkle evenly with remaining thyme , pepper and walnuts .
**********Roasted Acorn Squash
Preheat oven to 400* . Cut 1 acorn squash in half lenghtwise ; discard seeds . Cut each half into 6 wedges . Melt 2 talblespoons butter in a large ovenproof skillet over medium heat . Add squash ; cook 3 minutes or until browned on one side . Turn wedges ; sprinkle with 1/4 teaspoon salt . Place pan in oven ; bake at 400* for 12 minutes or until tender .
Tip : You can omit ingredient you do not like and add other ingredients that you like ...
The game plan ... while oven preheats ... cut and season squash ... while squask roasts ... saute mushroom mixture ... while mushroom mixture cook ... proach eggs ...
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
No more flabby back of the arms waving in the summer breeze for me
Let Pam Mazzuca Prebeg, Canadian Living's fitness expert, guide you through a great tricep workout. Complete her routine of five arm exercises three to four times a week for best results.
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Saturday, May 19, 2012
- Old Pillowcase or 1 yard of fabric
- 1 yard of interfacing
- bias tape
I refashioned mine from an old pillowcase but you can use any fabric, it only takes less than a yard. And you'll also need less than a yard of interfacing.
Friday, May 18, 2012
"I'm retiring after this one, this uterus is closing shop," she told the TODAY Show.
Olafson insists she didn't do it for the money, adding that surrogacy in North Dakota is not the cash windfall it is in other areas of the country. She receives $12,000 to $19,000 per pregnancy, a fraction of what some surrogates make elsewhere. Note that in Canada, it's illegal to pay surrogate mothers outside of reimbursing them for their expenses. Instead, she insists she merely wants couples struggling with infertility to experience the joys of parenthood.
"When you see those parents' faces, when they see that ultrasound for the first time and they see that heart beat beating, or they get to hear that heartbeat, that's priceless right there," she says.
Because the future parents supply the embryos — none of Olafson's DNA plays a part in the fetal development, making her literally a walking incubator. She claims that giving up the children she's carried for nine months isn't difficult.
"Those parents are the actual mother and father and so the mindset for you at that time is you know you're handing them their child," Olafson says. "It has nothing to do with you whatsoever. It does make it a lot easier."
Olafson's pregnancies are the kind every mom envies. Not once did she experience morning sickness, she put on a minimal weight with each baby, and was able to work until the day of delivery. Her longest delivery, her oldest daughter, took just over an hour. Her youngest child took just 20 minutes of labour.
"My pregnancies have been basically a piece of cake. I kind of got told not to come back to a Lamaze class because I wasn't that 'typical' Lamaze mom," she said.
What Olafson didn't share with TODAY was that two of her more recent pregnancies resulted in health complications. She developed pre-clampsia with the second set of triplets, and had placenta previa, which can cause severe bleeding before and during delivery.
"It does raise health questions," Michele Goodwin, a law professor and medical ethicist at the University of Minnesota, tells The Jamestown Sun. "The older the person is, the more likely there will be a multiple gestation and also some health problems for the person who is carrying and the fetuses."
Surrogacy.ca recommends that surrogate mothers not be over the age of 45.
At 47, Olafson's womb deserves a retirement.
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Dear Maxy ,
My husband and I have been married for eight years , and we have two beautiful children . Recently , an ex-boyfriend called to let me know that his father had died . I hadn't heard from him in 12 years.
"Matt" and I began speaking regularly and even spent some time together . My husband knew all of this and was OK with it . One night , however , things went further than they should have , and we kissed several times . I don't know whether I should confess this to my husband or not . Other than getting it off my chest , what good would it do ?
The kissing isn't going to happen again . Do I follow the "honesty is always the best policy" philosophy ?
A Confused Wife
Dear Confused ,
You have betrayed your husband and should stop all contact with Matt immediately . You are playing with fire , risking your marriage and family for the thrill of feeling young and desired again . It's time to grow up and end this nonsense .
I live in an exotic location , even though it's simple where I'm from and where I live . I went to school in the U.S. , and many of my friends from school like to come and visit me . When they come , they expect me to host them for their entire vacation . It's almost like they think my home is their hotel .
Don't get me wrong , I want to see my friends , but I am not a travel agent or a bed-and-breakfast . I can't really afford to host them the way they expect , and I also have to work . What should I say to them ?
Not A Hotel
Dear Not A Hotel,
It's time to speak plainly to your friends . Tell them how much you love them and appreicate them coming to visit , but state plainly that you are not a hotel . Tell them you hope they will continue to visit but that you need them to understand your parameters . Then lay them out .
Establish a length for visits . Describe how you hope the meals will go ... with everyone pitching in so that you don't become the sole cook or provider of meals . Talk about what you have to do while they are in town , especially if you have to work . Remind them that they are coming for vacation , but this is where you live and work . Be clear with them . You may find out that some of them may choose to stay in a hotel and visit with you rather than crashing at your place the whole time , especially if you make it clear that they cannot have free run of your house and refrigerator and time .
Dear Maxy ,
I had a misunderstanding with my next-door neighbor , who has been a dear friend for many years . I hosted an event for my colleagues at my home and did not invite her . She throught I was having a party for friends and got her feelings hurt .
When I reached out to her to talk the next day , I learned she was upset . I was really surprised , because as much as we like each other , neither of us invites the other to every event we have .
I don't think she should have been invited to this event , but I feel bad that she's upset . How can I help her to feel better ?
Dear Next-Door-Neighbor ,
Invite your neighbor over for tea and a chat . Tell her that you hosted a gathering of colleagues and tell her a bit about the event . Then tell her you think she's upset because she wasn't invited . Remind her that both of you host events for different groups . Sometimes it's right to be included , sometimes not . Assure her that you love her just as much . The end .
Monday, May 14, 2012
*** What would you like to do best ?
Fly kites . I have a secret invention , where instead of using one long tail , I use a third string which runs over and connects with the second one that's connected with the tail and it loops over the first string and secret one .
*** Well. don't let anyone know .
No grown-ups anyway , after 21 adults gets dumb .
*** How old are you ?
*** Any hobbies ?
I like to drive cars .
*** Do you ever drive ?
I don't yet because of one trouble .
*** What's that ?
My Mother won't give me the keys .
*** What do you want to be ?
A carpet layer doing the week and a preacher on Sundays .
*** Why ?
My dad is a carpet layer and my mother wants me to go to heaven .
*** What's your name ?
Alex Tontainbleu .
*** What kind of name is that ?
*** What's your father ?
Part Scotch , part English and Irish .
What's your mother ?
*** What does that make you ?
I'm Spanish .
*** How old are you ?
*** What do you want to be ?
I don't want to be anything .
*** Don't you want to get married ?
*** How'll you get the money ?
My wife can work .
*** What if she won't ?
I'll send for my mother .
*** Do you have any hobbies ?
Yes , collecting brothers .
*** How many have you ?
Only one , so far, but I'm looking for another one any day now .
*** Oh , your mother is expecting .
No , my brother is expecting . He got married last month .
*** What is your idea of the definition of a gentleman from the viewpoint of a kid ?
1 ) A man who cleans up after himself in the bathroom .
2) A man who's always nice to his wife and hardly ever hit her .
3) A man who always pick you a handkerchief that's dropped except by another man .
4) A man who always kisses his wife just before he leaves for work .
*** What's your defination of maturity ?
It's when you come to a dead in .
*** What are some of the saying that ten-year-old are using around school these days ?
1) "Go, man go !"
2)"He's a cube ." (That means dope ).
3) "She's 3-D" (Dizzy , dopey and dumb ).
4) "Jet propelled muscle juice .
*** What's that ?
*** What makes a man bald ?
They eat too much ... it fills them up so much that it pushes the hair right through the top .
Friday, May 11, 2012
1/2 cup Crisco (shortening)
1 stick oleo (I use 1/2 cup butter)
2 cups sugar
2 cups flour
5 egg yokes (beaten)
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 teaspoon soda
1 cup buttermilk
1 14 oz. pkg. coconut (I use 2 cups)
1 cup chopped pecans (I leave these out)
5 egg whites (beaten stiff)
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Butter three 9-inch round cake pans and dust with flour; set aside. In the bowl of an electric mixer using a paddle attachment, cream shortening, butter, and sugar until fluffy (about 5 minutes). Add vanilla and egg yokes beating after each. In a medium bowl whisk together flour and soda. Add to creamy mixture alternating with buttermilk and beat until smooth (about a 1-2 minutes). Fold in coconut and egg whites. Spread equal amount of batter in prepared pans. Bake for 30 minutes or until cake is done. Remove from oven and let set for 5 minutes before removing them from pans. Cool completely and frost with icing recipe below.
Cream Cheese Icing
2 pkg. cream cheese (softened)
1/2 stick ole (I used 1/2 cup butter)
2 lbs. powered sugar
1 1/2 teaspoon vanilla
3 tablespoons half and half
1 cup coconut
1 cup pecans
In the bowl of an electric mixer using the whisk attachment, cream cream cheese, butter, until smooth. Add powdered sugar a cup at a time until all is incorporated and creamy smooth. If too stiff, add a tablespoon of half and half if needed.
Your family will love you ... holidays ... special days ... anyday ... just plain good .
Thursday, May 10, 2012
2 cups yellow cornmeal
1/2 cup all purpose flour
1-1 1/2 teaspoon salt
2 cups water, boiling
1-2 cups vegetable oil
1-2 tablespoons bacon grease (optional)
Heat enough oil in a large iron skillet or heavy bottom skillet on high heat. (Oil needs to come half way up the side of the skillet.) In a medium bowl, mix together cornmeal , flour and salt. Stir in enough boiling hot water that the cornmeal mixture comes together enough to spoon (not too thick and not too thin, kinda like creamy mashed potatoes) As soon as the oil in the skillet is hot, but not smoking, spoon hot cornmeal mixture in the hot oil. Fry each in hot oil, turning once, until crisp and golden brown, about 5 minutes. Drain on paper towels.
Note: The Hot Water Cornmeal will be really tender, if you try not to handle the cornmeal mixture with your hand so much.
Dear Maxy ,
My daughter has very serious acne , and it causes her a lot of stress . Her peers at school tease her , and even other people who see her in the mall or wherever somestimes say say something about her .
She saw a report about a teen girl with the same problem who started wearing makeup to cover her acne. She even made instructional videos about it , and now she has good self-esteem .
My daughter wants to start wearing this kind of make-up , too . I think it's a mistake because it probably clogs the pores even more .My daughter is set on doing this .How can I dissuade her ?
Dear Protective Mom ,
Dealing with severe ance can be traumatic , especially for the teens who are usually stuck with it . I understand your concern about the makeup not helping to heal the skin . And you are probably right . Still , self-esteem is a real issue for people with acne .
I recommend that you take your daughter to a dermatologist to get medical insight regarding her condition . Ask the dermatologist about make-up coverage . You may get a cosmetic that includes acne-drying properties as well as coverage .
Maxy Dear Maxy ,
My assistant of two years will be leaving me soon , and I have a concern , she has been completely loyal for the time she has worked with me , and I appreciate that . She also has all my passwords and other senistive information because it was part of her job .
I'm wondering if I should change passwords and locks , etc . I don't have any reason to believe she would do something to harm my business , but is she's not working for me anymore , shouldn't I make it so that she doesn't have access to my records .
Turning The Page
Dear Turning The Page ,
Security specialists typically recommend that passwords for email addresses be changed frequently . At some companys it is mandatory to change them every 90 days . For sure , you should change your locks . It's great that you have had a positive relationship with your assistant . Protecting your files and other assets by updating your security measures in no way reflects on her . So shrug off the notion that you are doing anything wrong .
Celebrate your assistant as she leaves you , and take care of your business as any professional should .
Dear Maxy ,
I am in an abusive marriage . There has been some physical abuse along with verbal , emotional and mental abuse . It has gone on for for three years , and I think about leaving every day . I cry all the time. I have tried to be a good wife , but nothing I do , is good enough . I have talked to a couple of counselors and they tell me to get out . I want to, but I don't have any money (he has seen to that) and I have no place to go . I don't have any family or friends close by to stay with .
I've been in contact with the local women's shelter a couple of times , but right now , they don't have any available housing . How can I leave if I don't have any money or a place to go ? I just don't know how much longer I can hang on .
Dear Crying ,
Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (http://thehotline.org) at 1-800 799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233). The people there can help you figure out how to protect yourself and prepare to leave this relationship . In the meantime , don't hide your situation . Let others know what is going on , including your family members and trustworthy friends . When you are able to leave , you will have their support .
Monday, May 7, 2012
Sunday, May 6, 2012
- 1 - Fat quarter or 18x22” of two different fabrics for BOTH bag and lining
- 1/8 yard fabric for bag strap
- Scraps of fabric for pocket