Dear Maxy ,
I have fibromyalgia and other medical problems and needs counseling for depression . I an on disability , so my income is limited and I am unable to drive . I was wondering whether you could help me .
H.
Dear H .,
Please try one of these organizations : the National Fibromyalgia Association ( fmaware.org ); The American Chronic Pain Association ( theacpa.org ); United way , YMCA and YWCA; the Samaritan Institute ( Samaritan-ninstitute.org ); and Recovery International at ( lowselfhelpsystems.org ) . You can also find low-cost or free counseling through your local hosiptals and university psychology and graduate-school counseling departments .
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
I have a former intern who reached out to me recently to ask if I would give her a recommendation for a job . The job she wants to get is one that I doubt she can do . She was not attentive while she worked with me, she was a strong writer and she was a poor communicator . The job she applied for is in the communications field . I do not want to badmouth this young lady, but at the same time, I do not want to lie . If I misrepresent her, she will likely fail on the job and my credibility will come into question . How should I handle this ?
Wanting to help
Dear Wanting to Help ,
Contact your intern directly and request a meeting ... face to face if possible . Be honest with her : Tell her that during her tenure with you, she did not demonstrate skills that would suggest that she would be proficient at the job in question . Ask her what she has done since then to strengthen her abilities . Ask her if she has worked for anyone who can vouch for her in that capacity . That person should be her reference .
Tell her you care about her and her well-being . To that end , you cannot in good conscience recommend her for something for which you believe she is unprepared . If you can, suggest a line of work for which she may be better suited .
Maxy
Dear Maxy,
My neighbor's tree hangs 15 feet over my property line and shades my crabapple tree . When I asked "Ralph" to trim his tree so that mine could get some sunlight, he went ballistic and refused .
Whenever Ralph and his wife go on vacation I water their dozens of plants and take in their mail . I no longer want to do either of these things, because they obviously don't appreciate it . I once asked them to watch my dog when I needed to go to the emergency room and they wouldn't do it .
Ralph got into a fistfight with the neighbor on the other side when the man wanted to install a fence on his property . He once physically pushed the cable installers when they tried to lay down cable . All I want is for Ralph to trim his tree so mine can survive . Do you think I should water his plants and take in his mail ?
Unhappy Neighbor
Dear Unhappy Neighbor ,
Ralph sounds like a loose cannon . It's your decision whether or not to take care of his mail and plants . You are not obligated and he certainly does not reciprocate .
But about the tree : In most cases it is legal for you to trim the branches that hang over your property line, provided you do not harm the tree .
However, I recommend you confront Ralph directly with this because he is so volatile . Do you have a neighborhood association that can help mediate the issue ? Would his wife intercede ? As a last resort you can take Ralph to court .
Maxy
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ReplyDeleteThank you for your response so quickly . The sites you gave me took my number and said I will hear from them by Monday . One asked who my doctor was and what hospital I used , they will get me into the programs I need there .
I will keep you updated on my progress .
Again I thank you , I was at my wits end .
H. is for Helen
Let me go check stats and see where you fools are from .
ReplyDeleteWitchy with the bad attitude
You better keep your Canadian douche a** in Canada ... you dumb 'FUCK' .
ReplyDeleteI know you knew the real Maxy &^&()D#@!$ and I ain't your mate you rotton stinky limey .
As I said before you are a cowardly S.O.B. hiding behind your keyboard . My mistake , you are a bully and as everyone knows bullies are cowards . What's wrong ... you can't sleep ... Maybe you need to see the sun . Fuckhead !!!!!
Last time around fellow ... all your comments are from one and I said 1 person and I will not feed the fools . so hang around all you like , who cares ... I know I hit a nerve and will do you great harm and I am sitting here grinning at you fool . I also have my camera on .
ReplyDeleteNOTE: Maxy responds to all genuine requests for help with honesty, integrity and genuine concern for the writer.
ReplyDeleteWe would appreciate it if readers confined themselves to such requests.
Maxy
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Raging and deleting post won't help, mate.
ReplyDeleteYou can try cheat people around, but you won't cheat yourself and hide the truth. And the truth is, that it's you who start raging like little kid, when we just peacefull asked you something.