I have a 40-year-old daughter who is lazy . When she injuries herself , has surgery or is sick , I wait on her like she's a baby . But I recently needed surgery myself and she has no interest in helping me at all .
A while back , I hired someone to clean her bedroom . It took two days . It was absolutely disgusting . Now that I can't pick up after her , it's getting bad again . If I say anything to her , she throws a tantrum . I'm getting too old for this .
Can't Take the Arguments
Dear Can't ,
You're too old ?
Your daughter is 40 and still lives at home and expects her mother t clean her room . I do not understand some parents who encourage their children to behave like babies and treat parents like servants and then complain when they do .
Unless your daughter is incapable of holding a job and living independently , tell her it's time she found a place of her own . At the very least , insist she pay you rent . Do not clean her room . Close the door and let her deal with her own mess .
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
I am a caregiver for my husband , who was diagnosed with Lewy body dementia . Before that time , I had never heard of Lewy body dementia , nor did I know that there are actually four distinct dementia classifications ; Alzheimer's , Lewy body , frontal lobe and vascular
At this time , there are 1.3 million Americans who have been diagnosed with Lewy body dementia , which is the second most common progressive dementia and is believed to be under-diagnosed .
These individuals are drug sensitive and the incorrect drugs can cause full blown dementia .
Anyone who shows sign of dementia should see their primary care physician or a neurologist for proper diagnostic testing .
Trinidad , Ca.
Dear Trinidad ,
Thank you calling this to my attention .
Aside from the familiar cognitive symptoms of dementia , Lewy's includes visual hallucinations , as well as movement disorders that may be related to Parkinson's .
The earlier it is diagnosed , the sooner the treatment can begin . Those who wish to know more about Lewy body dementia can contact www.lbda.org .
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
I recently lost my job and had to move out of my apartment . I currently live with my best friend and her husband . It has been six months since I lost my job and my friends husband is giving me hints that I should find a place because I am getting in the way of their relationship .
I called my parents to see if I could move back home into their house and they told me no and I should find a woman's shelter to move into until I can get my life together . I had a bad experience in a women's shelter many years ago . I am hurt and disappointed that my parents made a suggestion like that .
I have a couple of dollars saved up , but I do not know how long it will last . I used to work in the accounting department a hotel chain and I am ready to work and have my own place again .
Nowhere to Turn
Dear nowhere to turn ,
Comb your memory to see if you have any other friends who may take you in temporarily .
If necessary , go to a shelter for a short time . Research to find the safest and cleanest ones in your area . Spend your days looking for a job , perhaps outside your field .
Maxy
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