I am due a promotion at my job, but I think I'm the only one who thinks so . I have been there for five years and I have watched several people get promoted in front of me . Whenever I have said anything about it, I get the brushoff . The last time I spoke to my boss, he said the reason I didn't get the latest promotion is because I have a bad attitude . Is that a legitimate reason to be passed over ? I can't help it at this point , I am so angry that they don't see my potential, but I can't figure out what else I can do to prove it to them . Is it time for me to look for another job ? I'm so frustrated .
Pulling Out My Hair
Dear Pulling Out Hair ,
It is time for you to listen closely to your boss and your peers . If you have been passed over repeatedly, it can not be everybody else's issue . You have some responsibility . Review your behavior. Note specific incidents when your behavior has been questionable . Consider how you might have handled the situation differently .
Request a meeting with your boss to discuss your future. Ask for candid feedback and guidance on what you can do to improve your skills and your chances for promotion . Be mindful not to bring up other co-workers and their progress . Keep your focus on yourself .
I highly recommend that you work at your current job, if at all possible . If and when you leave, let it be with skills that you have cultivated that make you more marketable . Resist the the emotional reactions that can easily cause you to be fired or be limited in growth at your current job . Stay calm and continue to learn and grow .
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
My family gets substantial financial aid from my children's school . We are grateful, especially since it didn't start out that way . We paid full tuition at first, but when I lost my job, everything shifted . I used to involved in lots of activities at the school, but now I wonder if I should continue . I don't know if other families know that we get financial aid . I don't want to be embarrassed by our situation . Should I just stay quiet or do you think it makes sense to stay involved ?
On the Dole
Dear On the Dole ,
You must change your mindset . There is no need for shame in getting financial aid . It exists to support families who need it . There should be no stigma attached to you or your family as a result of it, and chances are that has only happened in your mind's worst case scenario . By all means, continue to be active in the parent body . Your presence should be as appreciated as any other parent's .
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
I appreciate your printing the letter about the rare congenital disorder schizencephaly .
As a pathologist with special training in childhood diseases , I would also like to bring attention to the non-profit organization known as NORD ( national organization for rare disorders ).
They are headquartered in Danbury, Conn . Their website rarediseases.org, has a wealth of information about rare diseases, most of which become symptomatic in infancy or childhood . Their user-friendly website has separate sections for patients and their families, patient support organizations and medical professionals .
---JW
Dear JW ,
Thank you. We are very grateful for your much needed input .
This is one I didn't have. Again, JW, thank you .
Maxy
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