You have a right to grieve , to be angry , to cry . You deserve a new dress , a new pair of shoes or a new haircut . You do not have to answer the door . You are under no obligation to show up unless you want to . If you want to stay under the covers , or sit naked in the middle of the floor and eat grapes , go right ahead and do it . Never be responsible for the world if you forgot to be responsible to yourself.
Confusing , tragic , painful events will come and go . These events cause shifts in our minds and upheavals in our hearts for which we need time to grieve , heal , understand and accept . It is a progress of taking care of one's self. While the brain is clearing , the heart is mending , the body is healing , it may mean taking a break from the regular routine , and moving away from the routine people . Give yourself permission to do whatever is necessary to take care of you . Take a walk . Have a cry . Break a glass . Write a letter to yourself . Pull your dress over your head ! Go ahead , do whatever it takes to help you feel better.
I gave up excusing my own and others' actions . I want to understand myself and others . I open myself to the ability to understand and forgive . I have the power to replace chaos with calm . I balance and harmonize the four aspects of my being .
I listen to the voices of my inner selves . I love and except all of myself. I take the time to listen to myself and others in order to better understand . If I feel judgmental toward someone , I walk in their shoes for a moment .
But hey ... that's just me .
